Feature_Divorce_0119_FINAL_Layout 1 1 / 14 / 19 1 : 45 PM Page 4 This applies not only to finances but also to child rearing , long - term darkness or while your spouse is at work , you clean out the bank ac - goals , and other essential aspects of life . counts , take the kids , and leave , with your spouse having no idea it “ Marriage is a partnership , ” says Liebmann , who has been was coming , ” he says . “ Keep in mind that , especially if the marriage married for seven years . “ Being an active participant in what’s produced children , your spouse will in some way always be in your going life . You will have to deal with each other for a long , long time , and on in the household , insisting on knowing where the bills are going , at the very least you’ll have to be in the same r seeing what the retirement assets are — it’s just good practice to see oom together when how things are situated so you can answer the question : ‘ If we’re in your children grow up and get married . ” our 40s , where will we be in our 60s ? ’ ” Many individuals who are going through di - vorce — or even before they get to the point of needing a divorce — will benefit from additional perspective apart from that of an attorney . From A CLEARER PICTURE Hutchinson’s perspective , a Ce Sometimes , the unraveling happens slowly , over rtified Financial Di - Honesty and the course of several years . One partner in a vorce Analyst or a Certified Financial Planner may transparency marriage may choose to visit with an attorney r be better equipped to offer future - looking insight , o a financial advisor , just to see where they stand , financially speaking . are essential to any successful to see if they can maintain their lifestyle without Hutchinson , who has been married for more relationship , whether you’re partners his or her spouse . than 30 years , says she has seen divorce done in business or partners in life . ” “ As you begin the process , get some infor - “ both good and bad ” through friends and others mation , ” Liebmann advises . “ Have access to tax close to her . Sometimes , she adds , divorce isn’t al - — JEFFREY A . LIEBMANN , returns , credit card statements , account balances , ways the best option . LIEBMANN FAMILY LAW IN NEWTOWN the deta “ All marriages go through transitions , and not ils of your retirement savings . The more every tr information you have , the clearer picture you’ll have of what life ansition should trigger a divorce , ” she says . “ You need to might look like after the fact , if it comes to that . ” have open communication , and you need to have shared goals — If sincere attempts to save the marriage prove fruitless , Liebmann and you also have to realize that your spouse in 10 or 15 years is suggests interviewing a few attorneys , to make sure the individual likely to be different than they were when you married them . I also “ gels with what you’re looking to get out of this . ” He also prescribes think it’s important to have a good friendship [ with a spouse ] . a path of honesty and integrity when dealing with a soon - to - be - ex - “ In my mind , ” she continues , “ there are deal breakers , but a lot spouse , starting with the initial tough conversation . of things a couple goes hrough in the life of a marriage can make t ? “ It starts the process badly , to say the least , if unde the marriage stronger once you get to the other side . ” r the cover of Susan Levy Eisenberg Kimberly J . Jeffrey A . Liebmann Clare L . Milliner Karen Ulmer Pendergast Krzyzaniak Mindy J . Snyder Russell J . Manning SUSAN LEVY BRUTSCHER , FOLEY , David J . Sowerbutts April M . Townsend EISENBERG ATTORNEY KJK LAW MILLINER & LAND Wayne Kennett Square AT LAW P.C . LIEBMANN FAMILY LAW KAREN ANN ULMER P.C . 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